What makes a good friend?
I love my friends! And would do pretty much anything for them. Unfortunately, some times you get burned by people. I think that good friends are hard to find. Many of them take years to reach that preferred status! To me, a good friend is someone that is:
~ A good listener
~ Honest, even if the truth hurts
~ Your "Devil's Advocate", always challenging you to think of all sides to the issue
~ Your shoulder to cry on, even if theirs is wet with their own tears and problems
~ Someone to laugh with and at
~ A person you miss talking to if it has been a few days or even a few hours, but someone you can go months without talking to and still feel like it was yesterday
~ Someone you can tell anything, even if it is embarrassing, disgusting, or taboo
~ Smart enough to not air your "dirty laundry" to others
I had a conversation today with someone that is a good friend, probably my best - if I could call her that without getting my ass kicked by someone else that is her best friend. So, I call her my "close friend" to not get my feelings hurt . . . too many painful fifth grade best friend drama memories!
Anyways, I felt the need to ask my friend a few honest questions that have been weighing on my mind. I love her so much and have been concerned for her. Not because she is in danger or doing anything wrong - I just want the absolute best life for her (and I worry)! That is what sparked this journal and these questions I will be thinking about:
Was I a good friend for bringing up my concerns, even if it makes her start to question things (though I was not implying she should make changes)? Or would I have been a better friend to keep them to myself and just support her no matter what? HHHMMM . . . maybe I am just a bitch! God, I hope not!